During the course of the meal, the discussion turned to hypnotherapy. A lady brought the topic up by stating she had hypnosis, it didn't work and it was a sham.
Being a qualified hypnotherapist, I quickly became involved as I wanted to set her straight. "You are wrong" I stated forthrightly. The lady sat upright, her face started to go red and I could see she was keen to defend her point of view. "That's fine" I thought. Bring it on. I know I can win this one.
Julie kicked me under the table and gave me one of those "Let it go" looks as she could see where this was heading. I conceded I had heard of some people who had trouble being hypnotised and it certainly didn't work for every person. I then quickly, and in a nice way, changed the subject to another topic.
A valuable lesson was learnt that night.
Why prove she is wrong? Sure, it would have been good for my ego but it would have made her look foolish in front of her friends. I would have had an enemy (or many) for life.
Was she ever going to concede?
Her body language and aggression said "No". In fact, she would have become more set in her opinion.
Where do you have to be right - especially at the cost of someone being wrong?
Are you argumentative?
Sometimes it pays to let others be right, to have their ‘glory in the sun'. You know what they're saying is wrong but do you have to make them wrong and you right?
And who wins arguments?
If you are proven wrong, you lose. If you are proven right, you still lose because you have shown the other person to be inferior - and they will dislike you - or should I say ‘hate you' - for it.
If the argument became bitter with both having a ‘win at all costs' approach, the people present will not think highly of the person who started it, or the person who goes for ‘the jugular' to prove he or she is right. So you could end up with a lot of people disliking you!
A great trait to have is one where you can allow others to have their point of view - be it right or wrong. Others will soon work them out for who they are.
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1 comment:
Is that what happened?! Maybe that all makes sense...but letting go???It's stuck like glue, I loosened it a little but it's caught in my throat, and my stomach, and behind my eyes....maybe when I get to sleep well it will be easier...and with no emotion attached it woul be soooo much easier. How do you get passed the hurt?
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