Who Makes You Happy?

A well known quote by Abraham Lincoln:

"People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

Re-written, this says "You are as happy as you decide to be".

When I say this at a seminar, I often get one or two people saying "That's not true". They will back this statement up with "It might be true for you because you work in this area" and "You haven't been through what I've been through". I then ask them what they have been through and I hear about a life that is full of negative experiences.

The fact is, everyone goes through a bad life experience. I consult with people every day who have suffered in some way. I get to hear a lot of life stories - some of which are very gruesome and sad.

My role is to help them deal with this.

In my last newsletter (read it here), I wrote about how things went wrong for us in January and how we dealt with those experiences in a positive way.

Happiness is created by a decision. A decision made by you.

You have a choice as to how and what you think. The problem is, most people do not think about it. They accept whatever enters their mind instead of taking control for what they would like to be thinking.

If you want to be happy, create happy thoughts and do the things that make you happy. If you are doing something that makes you unhappy, either change what you are doing or change your attitude to it.

If you have been through some traumatic experience, learn how to deal with it. How can you make that experience work for you, how can you come out of it better off, what can you learn from that experience to make you a better person?

Just before I got into the self development area, I was rejected out of a relationship by a lady who said the previous week that she loved me dearly. The emotional pain I suffered was so great I was admitted to hospital with chest pains. I made the decision I never wanted to go through that experience again and so began my quest to find a better life.

Twenty-one years later I am now married to the most wonderful lady (Julie) and life is great. I have turned it around through studying the human mind, taking control of how I feel and resolving my past conflicts.

Just as I have created happiness in my life, so too can you. Just as my clients do it, so too can you.

There are thousands of books, cd's, dvd's and seminars showing you how to achieve happiness.

The thing to remember is: You are as happy as you decide to be.

How happy do you want to be? You do have a choice.

If you would like any help in this area, please feel free to contact us.