Nothing Works!

I often consult with people who are "fed up" with feeling bad. They say they are very positive in their thinking and are frustrated their positive thinking is not working.

While they are thinking positive, reading self-help books and saying affirmations, nothing is changing.

They still feel emotionally down, sad and depressed.

Why does this happen?

If it happens with you, there are many reasons.

1. You have negative thoughts.

Thoughts are words in your head.

Words have meaning and what you think is what you get.

Think sad thoughts, you feel sad. Think happy thoughts, you feel happy.

Decide on the state you would like to feel and ensure you think and act in accordance with state.

Most people don't.

They want to be happy yet complain about what's going wrong.

They want a loving relationship yet degrade their partner and create conflict.

Keep your thoughts positive. This takes some practice.


2. You unknowingly say negative things

Do you say or think:

"I need more ... money/time/clients/success/committed staff".

"I want more ... money/love/success/security/weight loss/time".

When you say "I need ... " and "I want ...", what are you indicating about your current state?

"I don't have enough".

This is a ‘lack' mentality.

And your mind says "What you think is what you get".

If you think you ‘don't have enough', you will get more of ‘not enough'.

To change this, you can do two things:

(a) place it in the current tense - For example, "I have an abundance of time".

Now you may be thinking "but I don't". Once you say "I have an abundance of time", you will then be able to find the time because what you think is what you get.

Don't take my word for it. Give it a go.

See your self already in possession of that which you ‘want'.

One of the best examples of this is weight loss. If you see yourself as ‘fat', what are you going to get more of?

Fat.

See yourself as being Healthy, Slim and Fit.

Ask yourself: What types of food do fat people eat? What sort of exercise do they do?

Now ask yourself: What types of food do Healthy, slim and fit people eat? What sort of exercise do they do?

In case you were wondering, fat people eat unhealthy food and generally dislike exercise while healthy, slim and fit people eat healthy food and enjoy exercise. They feel motivated because they already see themselves in possession of their goal.

This is one of the biggest reasons people fail to lose weight. They forever see themselves in the unwanted state and wonder why the wanted state fails to show.

If you are having problems seeing yourself in possession of the wanted state ...


(b) talk about it as being in progress - "I am in the process of having more time".

"I am in the process of being healthy, slim and fit".


Personally, I like (a) as it's the desired result although (b) will also serve you.


In my next article, I will look at other reasons why people have trouble achieving their desired state.

Stay tuned.