One such person was Paul.

On one hand he loved his work, his home, his "big boy" toys and having fun with his mates.

On the other hand, his business was always just breaking even, he had two health issues and he had trouble finding the ‘right' girl. When he did, the relationship would only last a few months before they split up.

When things went wrong, Paul would blame (both himself and others), feel angry and depressed because he was not receiving the results he desired.

He would get down on himself both physically and mentally. He would call himself stupid, an idiot and punch walls and doors to let off steam.

All this seemed to make his situation worse.

While he wanted a solution, he simply continued to focus on the problem. This only increased the size of the problem as ‘what you focus on is what you get'.

A bigger problem leads to more negative thinking and actions ... and so the cycle continues.

Jane, are you getting the best from your life?

Or, are you like Paul and in an ever increasing cycle of up's and down's?

If you are not sure, take a test here.

Like to stop the cycle?

Here's one way to help yourself ...


Achieve Your Best

Think of a time in your life when you were your happiest.

What was happening?

What were you thinking?

What were you doing?

Write these things down.

Does this list reveal the type of person you would like to be?

Hopefully, it will. If not, make a list of the traits of the person you would love to be.

Next, think about whether your current thoughts, words and actions are lining up with you who choose to be or are they working against you?

As an example, is getting angry lining up with who you choose to be?

If it's not, focus on the trait that does line you up. Your ideal traits may be feeling calm and finding a solution.

With our example of Paul, if he continued to line himself up with who he chooses to be, is he more or less likely to make his business a success?

Is he more or less likely to have a great relationship with the person of his choice?

Will he be more or less healthy?

Is life likely to deliver far more up's than down's?

Through seeing himself as a great person, Paul will attract great things into his life.

And so will you.

What you think is what you get.

Good luck.